关于爱的演讲稿4篇

情love

ever since the dawning of the history of mankind, there have been myriads of diversifed inventions, discoveries, and even explorations of the mysteries of the universe. in fact, the human beings are so intelligent that we have solved almost all kinds of problems we have confronted with .

however, nobody has ever made out what the word “love” really connotes, not even the most famous people such as great politicians, saints and philosophers can clarify the meaning of “love”, neither can they deal with the various affairs concerning love. love is like a huge boundless net that shrouds us all in. we can neither break away from it nor escape from it. like it or not, we are always entangled in it. it is an invisible net without any form, that shrouds in different people from different angels; it is a merciless net that upsets us or even tortures us to death. it is also a supreme net which almost no human can surpass. even if they are heroes, emperors, wise men or saints, they can do nothing but show their helplessness in its face. those who can breathe through the holes of the net should be regarded beyond commonness and vulgarity. love can bring us temporary comfort and happiness, but mostly they bring about annoyance and sufferings. maybe this is the reason why many people have seen through the illusions of the mortal world. however it is not so easy to break away from this boundless, ever-existing and indifferent net of love.

love is varied and changeable, but roughly it can be divided into three categories: family love, fraternal love and amatory love. not like monkey king who jumped out of the rocks, we were all born after mother's pregnancy of about nine months, hence we have countless relatives without any choice: parents, grand-parents, and grand-parents-in-law, uncles and aunties, brothers and sisters, etc. and once looking at the genealogical tree, we'll see no end. family love is what everyone longs for, but the warmth and support from our beloved ones are what everyone yearns for the most. but how many of us are determined to contribute to our beloved one? and how many don't expect repayment and relaxed. conscience even if they have the desire and preparation to contribute to their beloved. the distance between relatives is different and so are their expectations. but since it's very difficult to know how much we should expect, a lot of worries and distresses emerge.

parents always expect their children to show their filial obedience, or at least pay them frequent visits after they have got married. if the children fail to do this, they feel hurt and upset, and they'll even complain about their children, because they just can't understand why their children don't care about them after what they have done for the children for so many years to bring them up. nevertheless, one's experience determines his ideology. young children are naturally attached to their parents, but when they grow up, specially when they have made their own friends, and got married, what they need most is independence and freedom, and parents sometimes might become their burden. once there is generation gap, it becomes more difficult to communicate and this keeps them away from their parents. objectively speaking, they need more independence in order to achieve success. in the present society, what the children want to have most is the economic support from their parents, not their moral support or guidance. they would complain if your economic support is not up to their expectations. the love from uncles and aunties would naturally dwindle after they have had their own children. only the love from grand-parents and grand parents-in-law is pure and demands no repayment, and they are also too old to wait for any repayment. as for the distant relatives, their love depends on their needs, just as the old saying goes “the poor have no friends even if they live in downtown while the rich have distant relatives even if they live in deep mountains”. granny liu, a distant kinsfolk, in a dream of the red mansions , claims kinship with the wealthy jia family, thinking that she may benefit from it in some ways. liu might have run away without any traces if the jia family had been a poor one. another saying goes “close neighbors are better than distant relatives.” the most difficult is to manage the relatives when doing business together, just as what the tv series program liu laogen discloses. it is all right to stay poor together, but as soon as the business grows prosperous, the group will become estranged and even dissolve because of the unfair distribution. family love is like a maze which we shouldn't go too far into it, otherwise, we'll surely get lost. love is a bilateral matter and unilateral love can only lead you to nowhere in spite of your good intentions. family love is, sometimes, like an arranged marriage, leaving no choices to you. due to the different experiences and tastes, staying togeth

er temporarily can be entertaining, while living together for a long time can only be boring due to the lack of common interest and understanding. how can we communicate with each other without understanding? parents have the duty to support the children who are not yet economically independent, and children have the responsibility to provide for the elderly parents who are lack of economic abilities to support themselves. except these two kinds of duties which we must fulfill, other kinds of love become conventional formalities such as paying visit to the sick or the dead and giving presents to the newly-born etc..

no love among relatives has become a normal phenomenon which needn't to be fussed about. what's worse is when love is contaminated by money. sooner or later we will get hurt. the sooner we get out of this net of love, the more we can preserve beautiful memories.

we are not living in vacuum, and the society is formed of various kinds of people. as long as we want to live, study, or work, we have to contact, communicate and cooperate with others. those who enjoy common interests, mutual understanding, common undertakings and common benefits become friends.

some friends are called fair-weather friends, because they are together just for entertaining themselves by eating, drinking, and gossiping. once there's nothing to eat and drink, their friendship is finished. some are spiritual friends who share common ambitions, pursuits and education. “they enjoy talking and laughing with the great talents and never make friends with the good-for-nothings”. the best examples would be yu boya and zhong ziqi of the ancient times who are famous not only for their lofty music but mainly for their lofty characters and mutual understanding and appreciation. they cared very little about material wealth, so their friendship is known as “gentlemen's friendship as pure as water”. the third type of friendship belong to those who show their utter devotion to each other. they are ready not only to share weal and woe but also to die for each other, like the three brothers liu, guan and zhang in the novel romance of the three kingdoms. . we all wish to have this kind of friendship, but it's of great difficulty for the ordinary people to be as devoted as they were.

fraternal love or friendship is wide-ranged and flexible. generally speaking, everyone is our friend, just as chairman mao says “our friends are all over the world”. but transcend age, sex, nationality, state and economic conditions. to them the most important is common benefit, common interest and understanding. friendship is formed during the course of studying, working and fighting. the battle companions who have survived many hazards usually enjoy long-lasting friendship.

however, fraternal love is not stable. being away for too a long time, losing all common benefits, friends will become estranged. once their interest has changed, they no longer understand each other, and even this would harm friendship. at all times and in all countries, many close friends and battle companions who once worked together and fought together became enemies in the end. quiet a few of the emperors in ancient china even killed those who had helped them found their dynasties. the taiping heavenly kingdom would not have failed if it hadn't been for the contending and massacring among the those who first rose in rebellion at the beginning of the uprising. what else we need to pay attention to is that some friends, after being away from each other for too long a time, have lost so much of their original characters that when meeting again, you will feel that you are still the same as you were, while they are no longer themselves. they may have the same feeling about you, so sometimes it's better not to meet each other again. as the chinese proverb goes “friendship can not last for three years and flowers can not stay in blossom for three months”. it's not so easy to maintain real friendship which needs mutual understanding, tolerance and sacrifice. any kinds of harsh treatment will damage friendship.

amatory love has been a mystery for ages. there's neither a criterion to judge nor a common rule to follow. nobody can tell the exact reasons why love emerges. it is not always because of beauty (the ugly doorkeeper quasimodo in the hunchback of notre dame is loved by the beautiful gypsy girl esmeralda), nor kindness (hitler also has his mistress), nor wisdom ( even the blockhead may sometimes marry a beautiful girl), nor strength (some love starts from sympathy). true love is like getting an electric shock, shaking our soul. it is a sweet dream, a kind of intoxication, indulgence, and endless passion.

true love doesn't need a long time to grow up, to make clear the family tree of the other, neither does it needs the time to look ahead and behind again and again. love is not marriage, which usually starts from love, but

doesn't always depend on love to maintain. long-lasting marriage can eventually turn into a kind of family love, a kind of companionship which preserves the companion but loses the passion. love is often an wink of the eye, or a smile that hints mutual understanding. in spite of the great distance between them, people may fall in love incidentally. hence the saying “a distant marriage is tied up with a mysterious thread”. love needs passion, and it can stand bumps and stumbles, ups and downs, complaints and blames. when it turns into a pool of water, especially dead water, without any billows or waves, it's time for it to die.

delicacies are tasty, but eating everyday can still make one lose appetite. happiness is what everyone longs for, but too much happiness can spoil people who may not care about the happiness they already have. it's universal to live in happiness without knowing it. the same is true with love. very few people can love the same person passionately all their lives. all love stories come to an end no matter how beautiful they are, which also demonstrate the changeability of love. what one has been chasing wildly may turn into something one wants to get rid of desperately in the end. besides, love is usually blind, especially those who fall in love at the first sight. at the very beginning, both try to demonstrate their beautiful side and cover up their weakness. fooled by the mysterious color of love, one often mistakes the weaknesses as merits. however, as time passes by, frequent contacts make one bored, and even merits become defects, and then the end of love is coming. what's more, there are the capricious men and women who never take love seriously, leaving the devoted ones suffering alone. the saying that the devoted is always abandoned by the heartless has almost become the truth of love affairs. what we can't neglect is that love may turn into hatred, and lovers may also become enemies. the best proof is the numerous divorces.

even though true love is hard to find nowadays, we still can see some true and infatuated boys and girls who readily give up their families, their parents, their studies, their careers and even their lives for love. they love so passionately, crazily and wildly that they hate anyone who is against their love, and may even harm or kill him if he insists on his objection.

love has magical power that can exploit people's potential abilities, bring people's positive factors into full play, and provide people with the courage to face trials and hardships, to go through life and death, and even to risk universal condemnation. even in the ancient feudal society, some people were courageous enough to carry on clandestine love affairs. the examples in point were the courageous ones who dared to love the concubines of the emperors or the children of their foes. love also has miraculous power which can startle the universe and move the gods by attracting the heavenly celestials coming down to earth ( the love story of the cowboy and the weaving girl ), and by turning ghosts into human ( strange tales of liao-zhai ). love can transcend age and generation (dr. sun yat-sen and madam song qingling; luxun and xu guangping). love can show contempt for all conventions and prejudices; love can heal wounds and cure diseases, and love can readjust people's state of mind. of course, the result would be the opposite once it hurts.

great men yearn for true love even more than ordinary people. since the ancient times, so many heroes couldn't help falling into the trap of love that the sex-trap has been regarded as one of the 36 stratagems in military tactics. fuchai, the king of the wu state, couldn't be spared of this trap, and generals dongzhuo and lubu fell deeply into it while xiangyu, the king of the western chu state , bid farewell to his beloved concubine in tears. people may have to pay very high price, even their illustrious name for the love they long for even though it may last for only a very short time. nonetheless no one can tear himself away from love. people often say that their earthly affinity is not yet finished, but in fact it is the love affinity that is the most difficult to finish.

love is shapeless and priceless. we can blame nobody when captured by it. love can not be forced, nor can it be pretended. sympathy is not love, neither is gratitude. love must be generated from the heart, and expressed in actions. it can not be called love without passions and a deep longing from the bottom of the heart. there's no impassable gulf between family love and fraternal love. some family love may turn into friendship. at the same time, natural barriers doesn't exist either between fraternal love and amatory love. some friendship may develop into amatory love. the same is true with amatory love which may change into family love after a long time of mutual grinding and closer the relationship, and the higher t

he expectations are, the more difficult it is to get along with each other. family love, fraternal love and amatory love are three main human feelings. if handled well, they can bring us extreme happiness, while handled improperly, will bring us great sufferings.

the present society is a world of dazzling money and dwindling human feeling contacts. most people hold a snobbish attitude. they only make friends with people of wealth and of high social status. just as zhen shiyen said in his expounding of the song “all good things must end” in a dream of the red mansions “while men with gold and silver by the chest, turn beggars scorned by all and dispossessed”. frankly speaking, however, if we regard money the first thing in whichever one of the three kinds of loves, it will depreciate and even become worthless.

love can not pretend, nor can it tolerate too much selfish motives. it is reported that an old man in jiangsu province left his million yuan heritage to his young housekeeper instead of his own children, because his own children didn't take care of him while the young housekeeper accompanied him through his last lonely and helpless years.

love is easily perceivable and perceptible. flattery words may be cheatable, but true love and false feelings can easily be distinguished. if the people you love only know how to spend your money, you should be careful of them. everyone can help you spend your money if you give them the chance. never turn your love into the slave of money.

love should be selfless, and feelings should be sincere. we shouldn't judge our feelings according to the distance of the relationship. everyone treasures love and nobody can fool himself or the others. a chinese saying goes: real heroes yearn even more for true love, and great men cherish tender love for their children.

we are the saint on earth, and should treasure our love, but we should know how much is good and where to stop. since there's no ever-lasting banquet, nor is there an endless love story, we should take the gains and losses of love with perfect composure. there's fragrant grass in every corner of the earth, and you can always find your love in this world.

如何创建和-谐校园

亲爱的老师,同学们,大家好:

今天我为大家演讲的题目是《如何创建和-谐校园》，创建和-谐校园不仅是我们每个学生的责任，更是我们每个新时代的青年应尽的义务，我们要为创建和-谐校园作出一份贡献。

蓝天和白云的心一样，希望白鸽自由翱翔。

老师和父母的心一样，希望我们健康成长。

花开的日子我们走进校园这个快乐的地方，在平安校园愉快歌唱;

花开的日子我们遨游在校园这个知识的海洋，和老师一起编织梦想;

花开的日子我们愿意用心情的音符，去谱写和-谐校园的和-谐乐章。

和-谐是我国传统文化中具有代表性的观念，是事物存在的最佳状态，，也是一切美好事物的共同特点。实现和-谐，是自古以来人来孜孜以求的美好美好理想和愿望。而调动一切积极因素构建和-谐文明校园环境也将是一个永恒的主题。

构建和-谐校园需建立和-谐的师生关系。师者，传道授业解惑也，是老师给了我们文化知识的启迪，使我们从无知到有知，从幼稚走向成熟。老师给了我们知识的雨露，需要的是我们全身心地接受，珍惜老师的付出，尊重老师的劳动。师生互敬互爱，从而打造和-谐的学习气氛。

构建和-谐校园需要建立和-谐的同学关系。关心帮助有困难的同学，让他们感受到和-谐校园的温馨。保持良好的心态，宽容待人，用一颗真诚的心去换另一颗真诚的心。同学之间友好相处，从而打造和-谐的人际关系。

构建和-谐校园需建立好的学风，好的校风。我们要提倡一种蓬勃向上的团队作风，一种脚踏实地的学习精神，将学风建设的目标指向“理想、团结、自强、成才”。一种团结奋进的班风和刻苦勤奋的学风，能促使个人在良好的环境中成长。好的校风如春风化雨，不声不响的吸引每个学子奋勇向前，为了理想而努力拼搏。校风积极向上，从而打造和-谐的教学氛围。

同学们老师们，构建和-谐校园需要我们大家共同的努力，人前方荆棘丛生，我们将持之以恒。茫茫学海中，我们要做勇敢的水手，乘风破浪、共赴前程。青春的脚步如行云流水，青春的岁月需知识的滋养。让我们把握生活中的每一天，向和-谐校园的彼岸前行。

用我们的智慧和勇气扬起理想的风帆，用我们的青春和生命奏响时代的强音。当我们抛弃了迷茫，把握了航向。当我们共同努力，不懈的摇桨，和-谐校园的乐章终将奏响。

花开的日子，让我们在和-谐的教育氛围中愉快地学习;

花开的日子，让我们在和-谐的兴趣乐园中陶冶情操;

花开的日子，让我们在和-谐的人际关系中健康的成长。

未来不是梦，今天，在我们手中!!!

文明缔造和-谐

有一种美，令人惊艳令人回味令人追求，这是一种可以吸引目光的美，它——光彩夺目。

有一种美，飘逸在浮云上深埋在古垒下，这是一种可以吸引灵魂的美，它——深藏不露。

有一种美，给生命带来激-情给生活带来温馨，和-谐之美——无时无刻与我们现在，只是没有人留意，而我却在无意中有所发现。

和-谐之美在于宽容。和-谐之美在于宽容。拥有宽容才会有和-谐。因为宽容是人类情感的种子，她能在人类心灵这片静土上扎根发芽，在爱的呵护下茁壮成长。宽容之心是伟大的，她能浇熄怒火化解愁恨，她可以感化邪-恶播散善良，她能无私奉献从不计较得失，她能化悲痛为力量解千愁为云烟，她可与快乐相伴毫无掩饰，她可与幸福同行畅游天地间，她可以让人间充满真情，让我们享受阳光般的温暖、雨露般的滋润——宽容之和-谐，竟妙不可言。

和-谐之美在于诚信。诚信是奠基石，是和-谐美的结晶。诚信好比一枝玫瑰，在花园中她最美，美得妍艳欲滴，美得热人心潮。百花丛中她最美，美的无瑕、美的高尚。有了诚信，和-谐之美足以体现!愿你拥有诚信之花，送给身边和每人一朵，让人间多一缕馨香。

朋友，若想演奏和-谐的旋律，我劝你再携一颗友善的心，来面对鸟语花香的自然。对每一朵花，保你拥有一个花香四溢的春天;对每一只鸟友善，保你拥有一个燕歌莺啼的清晨;对每一条鱼友善，保你拥有一个自由欢畅的童年;只要你对每一棵树、每一滴水、每一株草友善，保你拥有一个天蓝草绿水清树茂的世界;只要你对每一个人友善，保你朋友如柔云新亲情如细雨，让你拥有快乐的天堂。我坚信，只要你对一切真心善待，世上的一切将会更和-谐。

和-谐之美亦在于平凡的生活,和-谐之美绝不容忍名利所缚，只有淡泊名利才可称之为和-谐之美。苍鹰是为了搏击长空而在天空自由翱翔，而不是为了炫耀自己的羽翼，因此无限的天空赐予了他自由快乐的空间;风帆只为乘风破浪而在海中搏击风雨，而不是为了夸耀自己的樯桅。因此浩瀚的大海给予了他豪壮宽阔的乐园。其实，你也一样，只要你用一颗平凡的心去对待，也会找到属于自己的星群。

宠辱不惊，看庭前花开花落;去留无意，任天上云卷云舒。愿你为自己寻觅一个桃花源，去发现和-谐之美的所在。愿你播下宽容的种子，送上诚信的玫瑰，带上友善之心，伴上平凡的生活，躺在清风送爽的大草原上，仰望那无边无限的蔚蓝屏障，聆听那动人心弦的草原民谣，它会让你置身于另一个世界——充满和-谐之美的人间天堂。

爱，是一个多么美好的眼！她，神奇而生动、温暖而幸福；她，滋润着教育，使之成为一个永恒的主题；她，播种在校园，使校园鲜花烂漫姹紫嫣红；她，走进教师的心灵，使师德升华，灵魂涅磐！我庆幸，我走进了教育园地，走进了爱的天堂，成为了爱的使者！

一位大哲学家曾说：“善治必达情，达情必近人！”从教十一年来，我始终恪守“爱而后教”的教育理念，在心与心的碰撞中，演绎了一个又一个关于爱的故事！

上学期，我班转来一位叫郭小亭的新同学。面对陌生的环境，小亭情绪低落，有时还偷偷流泪，她说她想念以前的老师和同学。针对这种情况，我多次找她谈心，并且给她写了一封长长的信，夹在她的语文书里，在信中，我夸她聪明可爱、诚实纯洁，告诉她我们班是一个团结友爱的集体，老师同学都希望看到她甜甜的笑脸。第二天早晨，奶奶送她上学的时候，拉着我的手激动的说：“邹老师，你写给小亭的信，她读了一遍又一遍，还通过长途电话，把信读给远方的妈妈听。”就在我与她奶奶说话间，小亭跑到我身边，亲热地拉着我的手，脸上的笑容像一朵盛开的鲜花。

今年暑假，我结合学生的日常生活，写了很多小品文发在我的博客里。这些作品，或品味生活；或励志奋进；或抒发激情；----成为同学们喜爱的“再现课堂”。同学们纷纷给我在博客里留言，班级“小博客”阳光蓓蕾在留言中说：“邹老师，我每次读你网上的作文，就好像看到你微笑着走到了我身边！”这学期开学，我给全班同学写了一篇新学期寄语，发到博客里，语文课上，我打开电脑，和同学们一起欣赏班级的博客天地。我无限深情的朗读着写给他们的祝福和希望，教室里静悄悄的，一双双星光闪烁的眼睛是那样专注，那样深情。当我读到：“邹老师愿做一只蜡烛，在点燃你们智慧的同时，你们产生巨大的光辉也会映照得我更加辉煌！”这时，同学们突然鼓起掌来，就在赢得掌声的那一刻，我的眼眶湿润了，我感受到：爱，是多么幸福！

作家冰心奶奶说过：“情在左，爱在右，走在生命的两旁，随时播种，随时开花。”我奉献给同学们丝丝入扣的爱心，收获到的是他们纯洁而童真的流露：有时，他们趁其不备往我的衣兜里塞进几颗糖果；有时，他们悄悄在我的发梢上别上一个可爱的小发夹；有时偷偷在我的衣角边贴上美丽的大头贴；甚至还有同学神秘的塞给我纸条：“邹老师，我真的喜欢你！”

最难忘的，是今年的教师节。那天早晨。我刚走进教室，王方同学就走到我面前，羞涩地说：“邹老师，我送你一个礼物”。没等我说话，她就机敏的从背后拿出一束金黄色的野菊花，里面夹杂一些不知名的小草，花蕊中还滚动着晶莹的露珠。青青的草，黄黄的花，散发出一股淡淡的清香。我小心翼翼的把这束“花”放在装满清水的瓶子里，然后端端正正放在讲台上。同学们争先恐后聚拢来欣赏，那一张张微笑的脸真像一朵朵灿烂的花！下午班会课时，当我走进教室，突然发现黑板上写着几个彩色的大：“鲜花送给您，祝老师节日快乐！”旁边还画满了野菊花，教室两边的窗台上，也摆满了小野花，金黄的、浅红的、洁白的，五彩缤纷，多姿多彩。一阵风从窗外吹进来，插在瓶里的野花轻轻摇动，整个教室充满了一种自然的清新的气息！班长李小龙站起来说：“邹老师，今天是您的节日，这些花，是我们中午在城墙边为您采集的，我们知道您最喜欢花！”看到一花引来万花开的生动情景，听着这纯洁真诚的动人话语，我陶醉了！我难以描述那一刻我心灵的感动！它让我从此懂得什么是天然去雕饰的美，什么是震撼心灵的爱！

诗人艾青曾这样感叹：“为什么我的眼里常含着泪水/因为我对这片土地爱得深沉.”是啊，我热爱教育这片沃土！在这片开满鲜花的土地上，我的每一次耕耘，每一次播种，都收获着成长的记录和心灵的感动；在这片沃土上，每片绿叶都是一种诱人的奇迹；每个花蕾都绽放着无限的精彩！播洒爱心，珍藏幸福，是我情感的定位；用爱心点化神奇，用甘霖浇灌幼苗，是我执着的追求！校园山花烂漫时，我在丛中笑。

我有一个超级妈妈，她有个外号，叫气象局，原因是：你根本就不需要知道第二天穿什么，她就帮你想好了，我的朋友小胖，我们两个从小就会一起去上学，那个时候她已经穿上了这个白色的t恤，而我已经开始穿上一个棉袄，比她还要胖，她就站在那个楼道那等我的时候会说：“哎呀，你这是干啥呀，穿成这样丢不丢人啊!”那我只能告诉她：“对不起，你还小，你不懂，世界上有一种冷，叫：你妈觉得你冷。”

这是我的妈妈，后来上了大学，大学同学给她送了一个外号，叫江湖夺命连环call，为什么?我想问问你们，你们多久会跟家里人联系一次，一天一次可以吗?你们能接受吗?你在摇头好吧，一天三次呢，那肯定不能。我妈妈曾经打破过一天打9个电话的记录。每个电话的内容就是：你在哪儿呢?你吃饭了吗?你回家了吗?记得穿秋裤。

这就是她，但是，尽管这样，我们的关系很和谐，从来没有过特殊的矛盾。所以我的朋友就会说：“小溪你看你多幸福，家里有屋又有田，生活乐无边。”对，说这话的是我的朋友小q，她从小跟她的爸爸就是武力对决，解决问题，一个女孩子哦，有一次巅峰对决的战果就是：她的鼻梁骨里面还留着当时的骨头渣子。

我的另外一个朋友也会说：“小溪，你看你多好，妈妈每天还会给你送饭，都是皇家级别的待遇。”对，说这个话的是我的朋友小a，她跟她爸爸见面的次数：第一次还是短发，她第二次就已经长发及腰了。最让人觉得心酸的原因是，她爸爸送走她的时候还会特别客气地说句：“那个，慢走啊。”

亲爸。 对，我有一个好爸爸，特别的好，他崇尚富养女儿，怎么样姑娘们，听到这个特开心吧，富养意味着什么，我有一个大我九岁的姐姐，从小就开始学唱歌学跳舞，十二岁之前她已经把全世界各地好像都走遍了。

然后他也是个特别好的丈夫。那个时候九十年代吧他就会主动地给我妈妈买一件两千多块钱的那个翻毛皮的大衣，特别时尚!到现在我的妈妈每天都还在说：“你看你爸多爱我。”

他也会很爱我，应该，也许，大概，可能... ...原因是因为，在我三岁半的时候，我的爸爸因为是肺癌还是胃癌，我已经记不清了，他就离开了，我就只能偷偷的把他的照片然后拿到厨房里偷偷地看，这个男人怎么回事，来了又走了，他人呢，是我做错了什么吗，你知不知道，你给我带来的这个缺失，是任我后天看多少书做多少努力都填补不了的。

所以每当我的那些小伙伴们，他们问我：“你看怎么办，我又跟我爸吵架了，他又是这样，每天都烦，磨磨叨叨... ...”的时候，其实我心里特别想打断他们，我特别想问：“哎，你能告诉我，跟爸爸吵架顶嘴是个什么样的感觉吗?”或者说，你能告诉我：“你放学有一天你放学，你突然发现那个高大的身影在那接你的身影，那个感觉是什么样子的?”再或者你能不能给我描述一下：那双大手拉着你，又是什么样的感觉?实在不行实在不行你告诉我，叫一声爸爸的感觉是什么?

我站在这，说一个我以前从来都不会在众人面前说的话题，揭开我内心的一个禁区给你们，并不是想告诉你们我有多惨，相反我一点也不惨，我只是想试图去揭开你们心灵上的那层纱，想告诉你们，任我们的亲人发生了什么他们做了什么，你依旧无法停止爱他的脚步，因为你发现，这种爱是本能，它超越生死。

其实生活有的时候，它特别用心良苦，如果它能的话，它一定会告诉你说：“嘿，宝贝儿，你知道吗?我给你的所有的磨难、折磨，都是想在告诉你，你可以变的更好，要知道伤害你的从来都不是事情本身，而是你对事情的看法。”

尽管这个帅帅的男人离开了，但是，他其实依旧在，因为我妈妈每天的九个电话当中有一半是在替他打的，就像我能够接受妈妈这种肆无忌惮的爱一样。我也要给她，她缺失的爸爸的爱。

朋友们，在这个世界上你要知道，也只有他们，是这个世界上唯一到现在还会对你说：“过道看着点儿车啊!”他也是这个世界上唯一一个还会对你时候：“记得吃饭喝水... ...”他也是这个世界上唯一觉得你穿秋裤漂亮的人。

这就是他们，岁月很长，然而我们能够跟他们相处的时间太短，请你们去理解他，最后我想去说觉察。光有爱还不够，因为你必须觉察到他的创伤，他的那份痛，他的隐忍，他的敏感;请你包容他，原谅他，就像现在一样我依旧感谢这个巨帅无比的男人，谢谢他来到我的生命里，谢谢他给我这份爱的力量，让我可以传递给更多的人。

最后我想跟你分享每一次看到妈妈给我送完饭，离开的背影，我就想到龙应台《目送》当中的那一句话：“所谓父子，母女一场，只不过意味着，你和他们的缘份就是今生今世不断地在目送他的背影渐行渐远。你站在小路的这一端，看着他逐渐消失在小路转弯的地方，他用背影默默的告诉你：不必追。